PRE WEDDING BUZZ - JUST BEFORE THE WEDDING


It would be Saturday soon. Whoop! Whoop! While many of us are already calling our tailors if they have completed the sewing of our aso ebi or that wedding dress we cant wait to flaunt, one bride, two brides and thousands of brides are on the payphone trying to make sure things are in order before the big day. I know its almost Saturday but there are still some things you shouldn't forget to take note of just before the wedding.

Although these wedding details may be at the end of your list, you won't want to forget them.          

It's crunch time, and you're pretty sure you've got everything in order. But "pretty sure" isn't good enough. So take a look at these to-dos—and be certain you're one hundred percent on top of everything.

wedding day checklist1. Check in with your vendors.

"Confirm arrangements with your pros and make sure they all have exact directions and a contact person's cell phone number," advises Julie Pryor of Pryor Events in Los Angeles.

2. Prepare final payments.

"Pay your vendors ahead of time," says Emilie Duncan of Emilie Duncan Event Planning in Columbus, Ohio. "Then you don't have to try to remember what is owed to whom on your wedding day."

3. Have an "insurance policy."

"When your vendors collect your final payments, have each of them sign a note indicating he's received it," advises Samantha Goldberg of Gold Events Planning in New Jersey. "Then if anyone claims he wasn't paid, you will have proof that he was."

4. Create tip envelopes.

"If you plan on tipping anyone, such as the banquet captain, wait staff or DJ, prepare envelopes with their names and insert the correct amounts," says Duncan. "Sealed envelopes are a whole lot safer than a big stack of bills in someone's pocket!"

5. Bring extra cash just in case.

"You might want to give a gratuity to someone who you feel has gone above and beyond the call of duty," says Kathi R. Evans, event coordinator for All the Best Weddings and Celebrations, based in New Jersey.

6. Drop your luggage off early.

"If you'll be staying overnight at a hotel after the reception, bring your bags the night before or have a friend or family member drop them off the morning of the wedding," suggests Sarah Lusardi, wedding planner for NY Engagements, LLC, in New York.

7. Pack for your honeymoon early.

Doing it sooner rather than later is the way to guarantee one less worry," says Pryor. "Also, make sure your passports and travel documents are in order."

8. Pack properly for your destination wedding.

"Make a list of all the important things you need to bring and, if possible, pack them as carry-on," says Cindy Clearwater of SunCelebrations in the Virgin Islands. "You may be able to pick up such necessities as drugstore items at your wedding destination, but don't assume so."

9. Have wedding items in place before the big day.

Lusardi suggests having your wedding favors, toasting glasses, cake knife and server delivered to your reception site a few days beforehand. For anything going to the ceremony site, designate a trusted friend or family member to get everything there before the guests arrive.

10. Put your signature-drink recipes in writing.

"Give a list to your bartender the day before, so he doesn't forget exactly what you want," says Sasha Souza of Sasha Souza Events in California.

11. Name those tunes.

Songs are often covered or remade by different bands, so double-check with your DJ or band leader that they have the versions you want.

12. Have a discussion with your photographer.

"Leave nothing to chance. Give him or her a list of people you'd like to have photographed together," advises Pryor. "He'll probably get the obvious ones, but if you want a picture of your sorority sisters or everyone who flew in for your wedding or your new husband's coworkers, let your photographer know in advance."

13. Create a wedding-day photography schedule.

Jean Picard, state coordinator for the Association of Bridal Consultants in California, says this is the best way to keep things moving smoothly. "For example," she says, "if the bride, the bridesmaids and the bride's family are being photographed at 3:15 p.m., this means they need to be at the location at 3:00 p.m., fully dressed, coiffed and made up. You don't want a bridesmaid thinking she can pull into the parking lot at 3:15 p.m. with rollers in her hair and her dress in a garment bag!"

14. Create a day-of itinerary.

"Write a detailed schedule for the bridal party and family to be distributed after the rehearsal," suggests Jo Ann S. Woodward, wedding coordinator in Texas. "This lets people know where and when to arrive for photographs and so on."

15. Review printed materials.

"Be sure to carefully check place cards, table numbers, menus and programs for errors several days before your wedding," says Pryor.

16. Make your guests feel loved.

"Have thoughtful welcome gifts with personalized notes waiting for your guests in their hotel rooms," adds Pryor.

17. Line your cards up.

"Arrange all your escort and seating cards in alphabetical order ahead of time," suggests Souza. "Bring an extra copy of the seating arrangements or give it to a bridesmaid and let her be in charge of it."

18. Hydrate your flowers.

"Have a vase of water ready for bouquets when it is hot and dry outside," Goldberg advises. "Certain flowers, like hydrangea and lilies, need water, so if you want your bouquet to live past the ceremony, don't let it get thirsty!" Souza adds, "Order a few extra boutonnieres in case some die or are lost."

19. Figure out how to get your gown to your location.

If you and your bridesmaids expect to dress at your ceremony site, don't end up trying to fit large garment bags into one car along with you and your maids. If you have a plan in place, you'll avoid stress.

20. Get your limo driver's number.

"Don't forget to bring his cell phone number in case you change your exit time or leave something in the car," suggests Isha Foss, wedding consultant and owner of Isha Foss Events, based in Virginia. "At midnight, it won't help to have only the office number."

21. Arrange transportation home for your bridal party.

"Don't strand your attendants at your wedding location!" says Duncan. "If they're planning to arrive via shared transportation, make sure they have a ride at the end of the evening as well."

22. Prepare for rain.

"If you're planning an outdoor ceremony, be sure to have a tent set up and umbrellas on hand for guests just in case," suggests Goldberg.

23. Nominate a gift caretaker.

"Designate in advance someone to take your presents home," suggests Foss. "Give her a house key so she can have everything there for you when you return."

24. Designate a wedding-day supervisor.

"Have a well-organized relative arrive early at the ceremony and reception site to ensure everything is in order," suggests Lusardi.

25. Give your legal documents to someone responsible.

"Appoint someone to keep your signed marriage license until the end of the evening so it doesn't get lost," says Duncan. "Some honeymoon locations will give you special perks if you show proof that you're honeymooners. That license may be all you'll have."

26. Don't go hungry!

"Pre-order breakfast delivery to your hotel room the morning of the wedding," says Souza. "Going through the day on an empty stomach isn't helpful in dealing with all the excitement."

27. Make sure everyone knows when it's over.

"Double-check the end time of your wedding with your venue, as well as the time it must be cleared out, and give this information to all vendors," says Foss. This will prevent unexpected overtime fees.

28. Pack a big-day emergency kit.

Lusardi suggests including bobby pins, hairspray, face powder, lip gloss and lipstick, hemming tape for last-minute repairs, traction pads for heels, a pair of panty hose, an umbrella and a shawl, stain remover, tissues and backup copies of your music choices should something happen to the originals.

SIDE ADVICE

HERE'S 7 THINGS TO CONSIDER WHEN PLANNING A NAIJA STYLE WEDDING AND TOP 7 MISTAKES TO AVOID

1. Uninvited Guests

There would be up to 30% uninvited guests and there is nothing you can do about it (because your invited family or friend would ask one two friends to accompany them)

WHAT TO DO - Budget for the gate - crashers if you will have an open - invite wedding or have an invite - only wedding.

2. Long Guest List

Your parents and parents - in - law would hand you a very long guest list. Add that to your own list - bride's guest and groom's friends. Plus your village meeting - they all want to come in a long bus to your wedding.

WHAT TO DO - Know your food budget and use it to determine the number of guests that your money can feed; then work out how to divide the maximum guest size among you (bride, groom) and parents (both sides). Better to have a small wedding that's classy than a big wedding with guests scrambling for food and leaving unhappy.

3. Unsolicited Vendors

Your uncle, aunty, cousin will highly recommend or pitch themselves or their friends to be hired as vendors. RISKY, because if they fail to deliver you cant repeat your wedding and there is nothing you can do about it

4. Jack - Of - All - Trade Vendors

The cake woman will tell you that she is an expert in all things chop - chop (food, small chops, swallows, cakes and continental dishes)

WHAT TO DO - Except if she will do them for free, say NO because you are likely to get disappointed by her 'we will give you discount' story because any other vendor will give you discount if you ask. Don't even if you will be billed for each service, hiring separate wedding providers for each service is one of the best ways to avoid ugly surprises at your wedding.

5. Food Time is Chaos

 Item 7 (menu time) can always be rowdy and take too much time.

WHAT TO DO - (1) Get a big enough hall so that there is free flow during food time (2) get enough food servers to avoid chaos during item 7 (i.e menu time) hire more than one caterer so that even if caterer number one fails small or big, you are not disgraced (3) if you have a small reception hall/venue, avoid buffet style meal; and if your hall is big, ensure that there is multiple serve stations.

6. You may run out of food

The drinks, food and meat will not go round and your friends and colleagues will think you are stingy and you invited them because of gifts.

WHAT TO DO - Budget for 30% more people than you invited - its a culture thing here for people to attend weddings with uninvited friends and family - you probably did it many times (escorted your friends or parents to where you were not invited), so either man - up or do strictly by invitation wedding and prepare for the backlash.

7. The Reception may start late

If your venue is far apart from your reception venue most of your guests would turn up late - because there would always be traffic jam challenges or long time to get a bus or taxi (especially in big cities). Even you (bride and groom may arrive late and the wedding may be delayed for up to one hour or more, with the excuse of Nigerian Time.

WHAT TO DO - Find a reception hall near your church / religious wedding venue so that you will reach the venue on time, no matter what happens. Also, find a hotel near your wedding venue and couple to check into your hotel suite a day before your wedding - and leave to the venue

So here are the 7 things to take note of!

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