RELATIONSHIP TALK - WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS ASKING YOU FOR SEX


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The issue of sex in a relationship has become so rampant that people equate love with sex. I am someone who had to pass through this kind of situation and so, I can boldly tell you it wasnt easy at all. The disturbing part is that this mostly come from the male party and this most times, leave the girl involved with little or no choice most especially when her mind has been clouded with love. But sweethearts, you dont have to concede o because I came, I saw, I conquered and in my own case, I ran! So, what then should you do when your partner is asking you for sex?

1. DON'T CONCEDE

This is the first thing I did. I refused to concede. Mehn, I loved this guy too much to say No but I loved God even more and I had to say a big time NO. This sex issue should be discussed before you enter into a relationship with anybody - whether male or female. But you know now, when you are so in love already and you dont see the need. He was attending my church and was a fervent worker. See me rejoicing that I had a Holy Ghosted Brother in my life but ngwanu, the story didnt go too sweet when he finally brought up the subject. It was painful but I stood my ground. I didnt concede.

2. TALK TO YOUR PARTNER

You might have to talk to him or her about it. Let him or her know your reasons. That was what I did and as a spirikoko I am, I backed it up with Bible verses incase bros never read his Bible reach that extent. Infact, I quoted the commonest one

    'Know ye not that your body is the temple of God?'

But I wasnt enforcing or shouting. I was calm and had to make him see reasons with me.

3. PRAY FORYOUR PARTNER

Too many times, your partner might be in a sitation whereby he or she has been having sexual intercourse in their previous relationship and thereby see nothing bad in it. You might try hard but might not be able to convince him or her. Consider the love you have for him or her and go into your prayer room and fire the prayers! God knows how to touch people's hearts and so, I never gave up on him. I kept praying.

4. HELP YOUR PARTNER

Like I said, breaking free from fornication isnt an easy sturv. I wrote an article on how to break free from fornication. Please refer to the archives. You could help him or her minimize and even kill the sexual urge by firstly discovering what could ginger him or her into the act and keeping it away. It could be pornography. It could be indecency. It could be sexual thoughts. Just try and help them. Your help and prayers could just be their turning point. And you too, avoid any form of unnecessary foreplay or romance like kissing or all these touchy touchy ish. Avoid staying together in secluded places etc

5. TAKE A BREAK

If they insist on sex even after these four points, please respect your prestige like me and take a break. Its not by force o. It will pain you anyway like it pained me. I wont lie, I cried. During that time, I was just wondering if I did the wrong thing by not conceding. The devil will want to play with your mind but resist him with the sword of truth - THE WORD OF GOD and he will flee. Maybe during the break, he or she will come back to their senses and begin to reasons with you.

Its not all going to be smooth but it takes patience and genuine love to help your partner. The worst thing you can do is leave the relationship. Perhaps, that might not be God's plan for you. Pray that God leads you to your best. But no matter the result, DO NOT CONCEDE! God loves you more than you selling out your body because of someone else's love.

EMETE SMART LOVES YOU!


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