Many people tend to make a million and one mistakes in their relationships. I am not talking about relationship in marriage. I am talking about your pre - marital relationship. So many Christians do a lot of things before they finally tie the knot. Most of them claim to do all these in order to secure the relationship and make it last but like I always say, its not about what you think but what God thinks. God doesn't want us to reason like fools. Our human wisdom is like foolishness unto God so if you are going to think in God's pattern, you have to have the mind of Christ and give yourself absolutely to God. So, what are the things you should avoid in your relationship?


So many people make this mistake and they be like

    'Is it not just an ordinary kiss?'

But then, how would you be kissing someone you aren't married to? How sensible does that sound? That means if you get out of the relationship and enter like 4 relationships after, you will keep on selling your lips. The Bible says our body is the temple of God and our mouth is part of the temple and like the next verse that says in 1Corinthians 3 vs. 17

    'If any man defile the temple of God, him shall God destroy; for the temple of God is holy, which temple ye are.'

So, kissing before marriage is part of defilement and its a sin. So, stop it! The whole kissing ish started from you watching it on TV, thinking it, then pecking and then kissing. Be careful. Its just a tool the devil is using to manipulate godly relationships in this end time.


I know you are in a relationship with this person but there are some hugs that are absolutely unnecessary. Even if you don't mean any harm, you have no idea what your partner is thinking. There is no need for tight hugs even in the relationship. There is no need for 5 minutes hug. What are you guys doing? Your time together should be productive not hugging unnecessarily.

3. SEX

You don't need a prophet to tell you that sex is an abomination before marriage. So many people are committing this abomination every day and God frowns at it and when God would come to judge this world, so many people would be destroyed as a result. 1 Corinthians 6 vs. 18 says

    'Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.'

Fornication is a big sin and God is ready to destroy partakers in fornication. Newer and newer sexually transmitted disease keep arising and people are yet to smarten up because that's what films and songs promote. May God have mercy. If you are already involved in it, your time of salvation is now. Repent and let God have His way in your life and in your relationship.


So many people enjoy gossiping with their partners. They call this communication but God sees this as gossip. You are in a relationship and should think of how to add value to your partner's life in a positive way and shouldn't instead start talking and gossiping about others. You shouldn't start insulting others to your partner. Its not needed. It only creates a bad picture about you.


Most of the points are mostly about physical things to avoid and that's because many people have forgotten to correct them. I see no reason why you and your partner should be touching yourselves anyhow. I had a friend who once told me that he and his girlfriend never had sex but they do kiss and touch themselves. So many people make this mistake that since they cannot have sex, they should touch themselves instead. Not just any kind of touching o. The guy would touch her on her private areas and vice versa. This is totally wrong no matter how matured you are. This should be frowned at till marriage. Its a sin.

Relationship to God should be kept Holy. Its a time to get to know each other and discover each other and add value to each other. Its a time to help each other spiritually and should be a building time and not a time to sin against God. You and your partner could sit, laugh, talk, pray, read, watch, hold hands all with no ulterior motive. This is the kind of relationship God blesses. But today, a relationship with no sex is frowned at because that's what the media promotes. People have forgotten Biblical virtues and this is wrong. REPENT!


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