So Pastor Adeboye's Video has been flying all around and people have varying views concerning what Pastor Adeboye said. Well, let me tell you what I think about it. But before that, I need you to know that you shouldnt base your standard or acceptance on the opinion of your favourite celebrities. You should base your standard on what? - THE WORD OF GOD. I usually tell my friends something

    'Its not like I dont appreciate what you are telling me o. But as long as its in conflict with the word of God, I am so sorry, I no dey take am or do am'

Now, what does the word of God say concerning what Pastor Adeboye has said?
Firstly, we have to note that the Bible doesnt explicitly state everything accordingly. Some require some skills of reading between the lines. Some are hidden in proverbs and some are written but cannot be understood except the Holy Spirit enables you by bringing you into a level of understanding. This is why the eyes of our understanding needs to be enlighten. That is why you wont see the Bible saying

      'Dont wear short skirt. Dont wear trousers. Dont wear earrings. Dont use makeup. Dont do this or that.'

All these can be embeded in a simple verse and it is left fpr us to unveil the meaning not using our human understanding but by using the wisdom of God through the Holy Spirit. Let's even look at what the Bible says in 1Corinthians 11 vs. 14

    ' Does not the very nature of things teach you that if a man has long hair, it is a disgrace to him'

Notice the words underlined. This indicates that even if you arent conversant with your Bible, does nature itself not teach you that so so so and so is wrong? That means the right application of our senses is needed in so many things. So even if you no even sabi God, does nature not teach you that smoking is bad for your health? Do you get it now? So even if what Daddy G.O has said isnt biblically backed up, does nature not teach you or common sense inform you that there might be sense in it?

So let's look at what Pastor Adeboye said and break it down.


1. "Don’t marry a girl simply because she can sing! In the choir there are some people that can sing but they are fallen angels! Marry a prayer warrior! If a girl cannot pray for one hour, don’t marry her."


If you grew up in an African Home and you attended the necessary night vigils with mom and dad, you will know that even that sister that sings in choir used to scream and vomit during deliverance. So that one shouldnt cause any alarm. He is simply saying that dont marry that sister or brother because of what they do in church. The church is a hospital and everyone aint no saint. The church should have been a good ground for getting a partner but today, you just have to be careful because even satan visits the church.

When he said marry a prayer warrior, he didnt mean you should leave choir department, ushering department and go and find a wife in prayer department. He meant marry a praying lady. She might just be one who visits the church for services but building a relationship on an acquainted level and coming to understand that her prayers move mountains, that might just be sane.

With the way the world is today, if she cannot pray for one hour then it is either because she is new in the faith or she is unserious with the faith. She should be your backbone when times are tough and be able to break through with her prayers. When things are tough, her prayers shouldnt be plus Jesus minus satan. Is that what you wanna carry for the rest of your life?

That is to tell you that marriage no be beauty matter. It goes beyond that in assuring your spirituality. If you are in a relationship and your spiritual life is not improving but it is stagnant or it is even going down or you have even forgotten the last time you conversed with God, you either have to talk to your partner about it or you flee. If you partner cares less about your spiritual level, you are on another level o.

Biblically, we can record virtuous women that prayed. Queen Esther upon all her beauty prayed! Hannah regardless of the priest calling her drunk, she prayed! Mary, the mom of Jesus, prayed!(Acts 1 vs. 12 - 14), Deborah, the judge, prayed! So why cant that sister pray?

So in essence, what Patsor Adeboye said is proverbial. That doesnt mean you should start probing your fiance or fiancee or telling them to pray in your presence while you are monitoring the time. He only means that your spirituality and that of your partner is very key because the times are tough.
2. “Don’t marry a girl who is lazy! Don’t marry a girl who cannot cook, she needs to know how to do chores and cook because you cannot afford to be eating out all the time."


There is great sense in this. Why should you even marry a lazy girl? Well, I am not suprised because the abnormal is now normal today and the normal is now abnormal today. If one starts reverting to the days of our parents, people will say times have changed. Really? What changed really? Times or People? Since the days of our parents till now, did God ever change? Did His word change? So why are you changing? 

Cooking is a very important skill every woman should have. If you like be a feminist, its your cup of fruit juice. Every woman must know how to cook. This is one of the things that breaks home - when the wife lacks good culinary skills. Let people be deceiving themselves that its not necessary and that why cant men be the ones cooking. My beloved sister in the Lord, leave them please and go learn how to cook to save your home.

Before you even agree with those who are clamouring for women not to know how to cook, firstly look at their lives. Its either they know how to cook but just feel like putting their mouth or they cannot cook and they are using the topic to justify their conscience or they are celebrities that have no idea of where they will spend their eternity.

In essence, you dont need to be convinced about my thoughts but you really cannot afford to be eating out all the time when you marry. If you are stuck with a lady who cannot cook, its either you register her in a catering school, or teach her if you have good cooking skills or give her the advise that can save your relationship if you truly love her - GO AND LEARN HOW TO COOK! You can learn online these days. You dont need to leave your comfort zone.

Pastor Adeboye said 8 other things but we will discuss it tomorrow. For now, ponder on all these and see sense in it!

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